Excuse me, don’t you mean the Queen of the Nile? No, I am not talking about Cleopatra here, I am talking about us!
Big Time Denial
There are times in our lives when we just do not want to see what is in front of us. This seems to be a common pattern in weight loss. We notice our pants are tighter but we just keep plugging along blaming the washer and dryer on the new “fit.” We notice our energy levels are not the same as they used to be but we just think it is “normal” to be a little tired, after all we are getting older! We notice that we are having indigestion almost on a nightly basis but we just think I must have a “bug.” We notice our knees/hips are bothering us but it must be a touch of arthritis or we pulled or strained something. We notice our face looks a little fuller in the mirror and we chalk it up to water retention. Our feet hurt and we have stopped wearing heals, we must be just getting old! We notice that we feel bloated all the time but we again think it must be an intestinal thing that is “going around.” Our knees/ankles seem to be giving us pain/discomfort, it must be the weather! We feel blue/down all the time and no not like to look into the mirror anymore. We have stopped wearing those “cute” clothes. We have been having migraine headaches often, it must be a food allergy or stress! We can’t sleep well at night, never get enough rest, we must need a new mattress! Guess what? The only thing that is getting ‘round is us! How easy is it to ignore all of the above and chalk them up to something else? Easy Peasy…but our bodies are talking to us! We need to listen!
A Shocking and Revealing Memory
In preparation for the Today Show I was asked what I used to eat for breakfast before joining Weight Watchers, I joked “Breakfast, what’s that?” But later I remembered what I did almost every single morning on the way to work. I made a mad dash for the drive thru at either Chick-Fil-A or Burger King. My choices were far from being point friendly, healthy or even modified in an attempt to try to be healthy! After joining Weight Watchers, I continued to have Chick-Fil-A for breakfast but only once a week. I figured out how to modify my order and chose to have a chicken biscuit on a regular non-toasted, non-buttered bun. I skipped the hash browns! I traded my diet soda for a large glass of water with lemon. When I look back, I am amazed that I not end up weighing more than I did with eating fast food almost every morning! My two choices at that time were either at Chick-Fil-A to order a chicken biscuit, hash browns and a large diet soda or order at Burger King a Ham, Egg and Cheese or Sausage Egg and Cheese Croissandwich, a large has brown and a large diet soda. I look back and think about all the money I spent each week on breakfast alone! OUCH! Add to the expense the harm I was doing to my body , double OUCH! You do not have to give up those foods forever but learn to modify and make them more reasonable and truly “treats” and not every day fare. I get it now, it isn’t a true “treat” if you eat it everyday!
I also chose to stop drinking diet soda for a period of time. I felt I was drinking far too much diet soda and gave it up for many months. The more water I drank, the less I missed the diet soda. I read about the chemicals in diet sodas and the artificial sweeteners, and that knowledge help keep me firm in my resolve. Do I ever drink a diet soda? Yes, I now have a diet soda once a week.
War of the Mind
So many people talk about having a “cheat” meal or a “cheat” day. I am sorry, I refuse to cheat! I know there are no “illegal” foods so I plan for my indulgences and enjoy them without guilt and savor every bite. If I thought that some foods were “off-limits” I know psychologically I would be setting myself up for failure. Mindset is what this is all about. If I feel I am “che in cheating” (negative word) it doesn’t contribute to a positive mindset. But, if I have “planned indulgences” that is a positive term which communicates not only control but enjoyment and satisfaction in a positive frame. How we frame what we do and what we say determines our long-term success. Keep everything positive! Even when you slip up, it is a learning experience not a failure. It is an opportunity to learn more about yourself on the journey of success. Success isn’t a destination it is how you travel the road on your journey. Don’t wait to celebrate, celebrate now! No matter how small or insignificant something seems, celebrate it! Keep everything positive! Don’t let those old negative thought patterns and emotional patterns beat you. Learn to turn them around to work for you and not against you.
Can you ever use negative thoughts in a positive way?
Certainly! A couple of weeks ago, I wrote about “How to be Positively Negative” and if you can, read that installment of my blog.
Here is an example,”The scale was up this week and I was very sad and disappointed in myself.” You feel sad, disappointed and perhaps a little angry at yourself. You know you didn’t really make the best choices all week.
NOW use those negative thoughts and feelings in a positive way. “Next week I am going to be more careful about my choices because I want to feel happy when I get on the scale and see the number.”
Self-love, self-honesty, accountability and self-acceptance can help you pave the path to weight loss success. Sometimes our refusal to see things as they really are can inhibit our progress on our weight loss journey. We need from time to time to give ourselves an old-fashioned “reality check.” Just because you didn’t track it, does not mean you didn’t eat it!