This is the time of the year where we all wish just one work out would whip us into shape! One meal would make us thin! There are some other “one” wishes I would love to have come true, one pill would cure-all cancers, one meal would feed all the hungry, one house would be a home to all the homeless and one prayer that would unite people of all races, cultures and languages to live in peace and harmony.
Once we reached a certain age, we learned that just wishing doesn’t make anything happen. We must put some action behind our wishes and dreams to make them come true.
“A dream is a wish your heart makes”
We all know that popular Disney song but we know as with anything in life, we have to work for it, and weight loss is no different. If you are trying to set your mind on losing excess weight and becoming healthier for the approaching next year, it does begin in the head. Wishing you could do it is a start, a small start. I suggest approaching your weight loss and greater health just as you would any major purchase. Get on-line, read the consumer reviews, read all you can about nutrition, exercise and weight loss. Ask friends and acquaintances what they would recommend or what has worked for them.
I might not be a friend or an acquaintance but I will share with you what has worked for me. I have lost over 120 pounds living the Weight Watchers Lifestyle. I will not kid you, it is not easy but it is simple. The basics of eating right and moving are the foundations of Weight Watchers to which you add: proper portions of foods, more fruits and vegetables, more whole grains, more water, and some fun type of movement (exercise).
You aren’t leaving behind doughnuts, pizza, candy, pastries and bread but you will learn that by eating those in proper portions and in moderation you can enjoy all the things you love and learn to love how great you are feeling. I like the phrase from one commercial, what will you gain when you lose? Greater health is priceless. You can’t buy good health and this is a treasure worth pursuing!
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Albert Einstein
The first thing you need to get into your head is that diets do not work! They are a temporary solution for a permanent problem. A lifestyle change is the path to success and permanent weight loss and greater health.
Another good thing to get into your head from the beginning is that losing weight will not: make you happy, make you beautiful, make your marriage work, make you have more friends, make you popular, make you a fashion/swimsuit model nor will it cure depression or emotional issues.
Healthy weight loss will: help your total health, change how you look, change how your clothes fit, open you to new experiences and opportunities, make every day things easier to do and enable you to make some internal changes.
At some point, you will have to face what is eating you–tempting you to eat poor food choices or improper portions. This is not easy and takes: time, patience, brutal self-honesty, and lots of brain-sweat equity. How can you go about this aspect? This might involve; journal-ling your feelings before you eat, or after you have binged, or some time with a professional counselor.
Many years ago, I went to see a counselor and he said something to me that puzzled me a lot for a long time. He said that based on my personality I had to work very hard to stay overweight. Through the years, I have started understanding what he meant. I had used being overweight as a wall/protection between me and other people. I had created my own self-fulfilling prophecy, I felt that I was going to be rejected by people (men in particular) and I did whatever I could to make sure I would be rejected (on my appearance alone) and I could say “see I knew (he) didn’t really like me, I was right.” Being right has been very important to me through the years. This has been a tough one, to accept and learn that I did not need to be right about everything! It was ironic really, I was so “right” but yet so “wrong” about myself!
The last few years, I have spent a lot of time journaling about things going on in my life, my thoughts, feelings and anything else I wanted to write about. I started noticing some common threads and started learning some new coping mechanisms. The journaling has helped me to see that “if hunger isn’t the problem, food isn’t the answer” and to hour by hour test myself (hungry or something else) to keep on the healthy track.
I would encourage anyone who wishes to be healthier to spend time inside their own head, perhaps with the guidance of a professional to learn new strategies for dealing with emotions, food and people.
This is a continuation of the May 21, 2014 article on how NOT to lose weight.
Here are more things you can do to assure you will not succeed in your weight loss efforts.
How to be successful? Do the opposite!